First off, if you’re reading this then congratulations are in order!
You have been out there pushing past your fears and approaching new girls.
And you’ve gotten at least one number!
(And if you’re not, well, check this out to get started.
I remember in my “indirect days” I used to get a number or two occasionally, but I’d very rarely call, text, or follow up at all.
Because I was so damn scared of screwing up, having an awkward date, or being rejected. (Drop a comment if you can relate to this.)
So I just protected my little ego and let the numbers pile up in my phone without dates…
Not a great feeling.
But, this one simple idea that I’ll share in this post should inspire you to set up that first date and give her a unique experience that she’ll never forget.
So, what’s the big secret here?
Well, it’s just a simple mindset that helps make those crucial first few minutes of a date totally unique. All you gotta do is:
Act like you’re old lovers reunited
I know what you’re thinking. “Hold on a sec. I only just met this chick! How can I pretend like we already know each other, and what the hell is the point of doing that anyway?”
Bear with me while I explain the psychology here.
When you act as if something is the case, the vast majority of people will follow your lead. As you may know from (bad) cold-approaching, if you act like a beggar and focus only on “taking” value rather than giving it, people will avoid you. And, paradoxically, being too “nice” causes the same thing—you’re being deceptive in order to get something back (her affection).
Conversely, if you adopt the “billionaire mindset” (which I discuss in much more detail here), act as if you already have everything you need, and feel so much abundance that you don’t need anything from anyone, then people will assume that you don’t aren’t sleazy or manipulative—so they’ll WANT to be around you!
Pretty cool huh? And you don’t need a fake entourage at the nightclub or an expensive car to pull this off! You just need a potent mix of playfulness, honesty, and sexuality, which I teach on my bootcamps.
So, first off, as soon as you see her, you want to beam a radiant smile. Remember, it’s like you were together, but haven’t seen each other for years. How would you feel? How would you express that?
Open your arms wide as you walk towards her, and give her a big hug and kiss on each cheek. Slow down as you pass from cheek to cheek, making eye contact as your face crosses in front of her face—very sexual.
Now, this next thing this is super bold and I really shouldn’t be giving away, but hey, I know you’ll use it wisely. 😉
Don’t let go of her after your hug and kiss. Instead, pick her up and spin her around. This is a such a sweet tactic because it communicates multiple attractive traits all at the same time:
- Sexuality (without being too forward…)
Pretty good for just one 10-second move huh?
What you’ve done already in the space of the first minute of meeting her, is immediately break her out of the idea that this is just going to be another average, awkward date, where you sit across from each other, not touching, and have banal small talk about work.
Instead, because you have sub-communicated so many attractive traits, she’s going to use her imagination to paint an amazing picture of the confident and romantic man you must be—and how awesome this date is going to be.
One of the core concepts I teach is the importance of beginning your interaction with an emotional spike.
Well, by following this simple technique, you’ve created an incredibly romantic moment: Her heart is pounding, her adrenaline is flowing, and she’s already excited to have an amazing adventure with you!