Why You Have ‘Approach Anxiety’ (And How to Remove it Permanently)

She’s sitting right over there…

I ran my eyes up her long, smooth legs..

Up her slim, toned body… long, shiny hair, elegant neck…

And watched as she bit her lips in this sexy way while engrossed in texting…

Just as I was visualising what it would be like to run my hands all over that body and kiss her…

I came to my senses: “Look away for God’s sake! You don’t wanna get caught staring at her like a creeper!”

If only there was some way to go over and talk to her?

But, even as I imagined the idea – my heart started racing:

My hands started to sweat and I became petrified:

What? Go over there and say what?

And a girl like that will obviously tell me to piss off…

And then everyone in this café will see

I’ll prolly get thrown out for being creepy

Yeah, no thanks…

And I went back to swiping another few thousand times on Tinder, hoping I’d match with her that way…

That was my reality for many years, and is a common story amongst many of my clients before they work with me:

It’s an awful shame when financially successful, hardworking good guys suffer from the crippling fear of rejection called “Approach Anxiety”…

Without the ability to strike up conversations with women they find attractive…

They can only rely on dating apps, which usually lead to few quality matches that mostly go nowhere…

And so they end up feeling unworthy of attractive women:

Like they are not handsome, high status or confident enough.

The truth is: it’s nothing to do with any of that…

The solution is actually simpler than you may think…

It’s all down to one thing:

To explain it, you need to understand where approach anxiety, the fear of rejection and social anxiety come from in the first place.

And to do that, lemme tell you a quick story from the turn of the 19th century…

’twas a crisp January evening in 1896…

Families filed into the Paris theatre, taking off their winter coats and finding their seats…

And then something terrible happened

Within less than a minute of the premiere…

Crowds of hysterical Parisians were heard screaming as they fled out of the building!

Had there been a fire?

Did one of the guests have a heart attack?

Or did someone pull a gun?

Not at all:

The premiere was of Auguste and Louis Lumière’s Arrival of a Train at La Ciotat Station…

In this piece of early cinema, a train appears to head directly towards the viewer as it arrives at the station:

And that was the sole cause of those movie-goers’ utter terror!

It seems crazy to us now – how could educated, refined and sophisticated people be so stupid and irrational?

But, at the time, they had no reference experience to go off:

Their existing beliefs told them – if it looks like something massive is coming towards you, trigger a flight response so you run away and don’t die!

These days, we’ve all had hundreds of reference experiences around film & TV:

Just because you see something on a screen that appears real, you know it can’t physically hurt you…

So your flight response isn’t triggered and you don’t run out of theatres screaming (unless it was so bad you wanted a refund!)

What about your beliefs around women?

I notice lots of intelligent, sophisticated and successful guys often have the same kind of irrational reaction when it comes to attractive women:

They’re triggering their fight or flight sympathetic nervous system: creating fear, anxiety, nervousness & panic…

At the mere sight of, or just the thought of approaching, an attractive woman…

As if that cute little 120 lbs girl is a giant train hurtling towards them, seconds away from squishing them dead!

What’s happening here?

Just like those 19th century Parisians, you’re going off your existing ‘default’ beliefs:

For millions of years of human evolution, we lived in tribes of a few hundred people, practising Strict Egalitarianism:

Social rules were all based on everyone cooperating to ensure everyone’s survival…

If you ‘broke the rules’ by e.g. not sharing the mammoth meat with everyone else, you’d be judged negatively as a risk to the tribe…

The Punishment?

The oldest punishment in recorded history – ostracism.

Which, without the support of your fellow tribe members, inevitably means death.

So, our default belief is:

“Being judged negatively = death.”

This explains why the #1 fear across all populations is public speaking (with #2 being death itself!)

And it explains why your parasympathetic fight or flight response gets triggered by attractive women:

“If I approach her, and she rejects me…

People will see me being rejected…

She, and the rest of the people around, will judge me negatively…

…so I’ll be ostracised & die!”

The solution?

It’s as simple as (i) shifting your beliefs & (ii) having new reference experiences:

(i) If you can shift your beliefs in a way that removes that default “negative judgment = death”

(ii) And have reference experiences that prove your new beliefs true (e.g. have someone judge you negatively and not die)

Well then, you won’t trigger that sympathetic response…

When means a lifetime of nervousness around women, social anxiety, and fear of rejection…

…can disappear completely and permanently.

Bold claim?

Maybe, but having experienced that exact transformation myself…

And then taken hundreds of men through my iCBT process that does exactly that…

I know it’s not just possible, but can often be accomplished in a matter of hours…

Even after the client has failed with years of therapy, personal development, meditation and even ‘PUA’ material…

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The SHIFT Masterclass is a 5-day mini course:

Over the course of 5 simple challenges, I introduce you to my iCBT methodology:

I gives you the theory and the practical steps to

(i) Shift your beliefs, and

(ii) Have the exact reference experience you need…

To remove the anxiety and fear that’s holding you back from meeting the women you actually want…

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I figure, by implementing the SHIFT class, you’ll no longer be held back by any fear of rejection…

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Removing any lingering worries about running out of things to say or getting her number the right way…

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Look forward to shifting your beliefs together,

Ryan